October 2018 Lessons | On Identity, Your Dream Life, & Reconnecting with Mindfulness

Happy #selfcaresunday, loves!

This week I was inspired to share the lessons that I’ve learned during the month of October.

I share four major lessons:

  1. Your Identity Must be Flexible – when it comes to your personal growth journey, you won’t get anywhere until you become okay with changing who you are. This will include both superficial and fundamental changes, and I explain exactly how you can begin to do this in your own life.
  2. Life is as ____ As You Make It – your external reality is a reflection of your internal thoughts, and through  my experiences this month I saw just how quickly my thoughts could manifest into reality. If you want your life to be abundant, connected, fun, wealthy, successful – you need to start with that as a fundamental belief, and I explain what that really means in the video below.
  3. Why We Surrender to our Egos – we’re constantly tempted between choices that we fear can define ourselves. Sometimes, we don’t think as deeply and come to prioritize how we feel and focus on just reacting instead of looking at the entire situation objectively. In this video, I explore what causes us to do this, and how we can grow from this and change our decisions.
  4. Movement as a Way to Reconnect with Mindfulness – I have recently gotten more out of my mindfulness and meditation practices than I have liked, and I share how using various movement practices (like yoga, martial arts, even sports and dance) can help jumpstart your return (or the beginning) of your mindfulness practice.

Join me in the video below and don’t forget to comment and share your lessons from the month below too!

Can you visit your own past lives?!

In the second half of my Past Life Series, I decided to interview my boyfriend, who has actually undergone his own past life regression.

He lived through many parts of his previous life as a fisherman, then nomad, then soldier in Italy around 1100 A.D. From the visuals he saw in his mind alone, we were able to recognize the exact piazza he lived near and we found out that he spent an entire lifetime around Venice.

He was able to heal physical pains he currently has when he saw how he got hurt as a soldier, and we talk about uncovering trauma, what you can learn from your past lives, how healing take place in a past life regression, and why everyone should undergo a regression!

Please let me know what you think below – would you ever try it?!

Past Lives, Cell Memory, & Residual Trauma – What does it all mean?

Hey everyone!

For #Holloween2018, I wanted to do something different and talk about *~past lives~* on my channel! I never gave past lives or reincarnation much thought before. However, like most special things, past lives were introduced to me in
a serendipitous way.

It was a hot, summer morning,and I was walking my sweet little corgi, and out of nowhere there was a giant box of free books on my block. I gave it a longing glance, but my lil’ pup was eager and ready to explore. On the way back, I kept getting nudges to look in the box, and the second I did my eyes fell on a book with scribbles on both covers and years of wear and tear visible. The second I saw it and saw the words “cell memory,” I was hooked.

I left on a cabin vacation the next week and devoured the book about cell memories and case studies of past lives in two days. The research continued, until I finally tried a past life regression on my boyfriend and we were both completely dumbfounded when he detailed his life in Italy as a 17 year old boy in 1100 AD. It was so specific and accurate, that based on his visions during the regression, he was able to recognize pictures of a specific plaza (he’s never left America) and we found out that he actually lived in Venice.

Past lives are a strange, fascinating, mysterious, and spooky phenomenon, and I go into so much more detail in the video below! Stay tuned for Halloween Day, too – my next video will be a tell-all interview with my boyfriend about his regression!

How Creativity Benefits Mental Health

Creativity is extremely beneficial for mental health and for the brain overall. Not only does it increase your ability to problem solve, to find meaningful connections throughout your various experiences, it also provides you with a mental break that allows your mind to relax.

We’ve all had great ideas while we’re in the shower or while we’re driving, and that’s because our problem solving abilities can increase when we are exposed to new visual stimuli (driving) or if we are doing something monotonous and on auto-pilot. Rather than wasting gas and spending needless amounts of time in your car stuck in traffic, you can use your own creative practice to help you zone out, refresh your mind, and even passively learn a new skill while giving yourself a break from the taxing, anxious, and depressive thoughts we are often battling.

In this video, I take you along some of my DIY projects and tell you about how important creativity is for mental health. I hope that this video inspires you to start your own non-serious creativity practice or projects, and that this helps bring you some peace!

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The Theory of Possible Selves

The Theory of Possible Selves was developed by Hazel Markus and Paula Nurious in 1986.

This theory posits that we need to understand not only who we are on a day-to-day basis, but that we need to understand our “ideal self” and/or “perfect selves” as much as we need to understand the versions of ourselves that we swear not to become.

We are all raised with ideas of what we should be of what we can become (socially, financially, academically, and even professionally), and these ideas continue to influence us in our adult lives.

We might be subconsciously comparing ourselves to this fictional version of ourselves that we were taught to become, even if we have no interest in actually being that kind of person. To fully understand who we are, we must understand both our actual, daily self, as well as our possible selves.

The good news is that once we understand and become intentional with our possible selves, we can use this idea to continue to set goals and become better people.

Watch the video to learn more about this theory, and stick around until the end for the free exercise I give you to learn more about your own possible selves!

How to Manifest Energy in your Physical Space

I talk about using Neuro-Linguistic Programming with most of my clients, and I will return to NLP tools for all types of problems.

If you’ve ever wanted to feel an immediate relief as soon as you walk into the door at home; or relaxation when you hit your pillow each night, it is completely possible!

My latest video shows you how you can use simple visualization practices and NLP tools to create a specific kind of mood in any physical place.

This video is short and sweet – under 10 minutes – and it’s free to use this tool at home! Why not try it?!

Life Lessons from my 23-Year-Old Self

Hello loves!

It has been SO long since I have posted and I apologize! I have been super active over on my YouTube Channel and for a while I couldn’t cross-post onto this website but I can now!! Woohoo!

So look forward to seeing my YouTube videos here when I first launch them, and to celebrate my recent 24th birthday, I decided to create a video about Lessons I’ve Learned during the past year.

I really wanted to make this series, Lessons I’ve Learned, as my version of a “Monthly Favorites” series so that I can share things that I’m going through in a more authentic way and so that I can take you on this journey of growing alongside me!

In this video, I talk about taking up space, what it’s like to be a woman of color on youtube, and what I’ve discovered that has SERIOUSLY helped me and changed my life in the last year!




My Story

I was 22, on the floor of my apartment, having a front-of-the-altar type of mental breakdown. I finally recognized the pain that I had been hiding for all of these years. The feeling of being unloved. My Story Visual

As a survivor of childhood emotional abuse, I know how much abuse and trauma from your past can affect your every decision. I was constantly looking for love without knowing it.

At the age of 5, I immigrated from Nairobi, Kenya, to Dallas, Texas. My extended family was torn apart, and my parents and I were uprooted to a new world. The very foundations of the world I had grown to love was shattered. This caused a lot of confusion and resentment amidst the culture shock of moving to a new country.

I wanted so desperately to fit in and to not be made fun of that I began to do everything in my power to assimilate. I purposely forgot three languages that I could fluently speak so that I could be proud to say I only knew English. I turned on my culture, and lived my adolescence through the experience of internalized racism. 

As a teenager, anxiety and depression was constant and overwhelming, but in most cases I was unaware that I even had these conditions. It was when my maternal grandmother, whom I was closest to, passed when I was 16 that I truly began to realize the extent of my depression.

By the time I was in college, I had been continuing to hide parts of myself. Not only was I embarrassed by my heritage, but I had no idea how to believe in my own strengths and talents. I was so convinced that my natural skills in art, history, literature, sociology, etc. were “useless” because they “wouldn’t be able to provide for me.”

At every chance I had, I undermined myself. I didn’t know it at the time – but this lack of belief in myself was completely intertwined in my feelings of being unloved.

After suffering through hundreds of panic attacks, multiple serious bouts of depression, a constant stream of anxiety-ridden thoughts, and even trying antidepressants by just the age of 20, I knew that a better way had to be out there.

During my time after high school and in college, the pain that I carried with me manifested in the use of multiple substances. I was never completely addicted to one particular drug, but I knew that I was meant for so much more than the life that I was living. 

I finally realized that I needed to heal. I needed to process all of the pain I had been through. I needed to break free of my addictions, my stories of self-doubt, and I had to completely put myself together again. 

It was on this journey that I discovered NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), Art Therapy, and a variety of spiritual leaders that gave me the tools to discover who I am and how to believe in myself.

I learned to trust.

Not only myself, but the universe. The world around me. I rebuilt a story that my world is friendly, accepting, supportive, and loving. I reconnected with many old friends, made plenty of new ones, and created a life for myself that better than I could have imagined.

I know how difficult it can be to deal with addictions, to feel like every single decision is a struggle. I understand the immense heartwork that it takes to put trauma and betrayal in your past. But this is your life. And you deserve to be completely in love with it.

Can you learn to trust yourself?

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Do you trust yourself to do what is best for yourself?

Do you trust yourself to be compassionate towards yourself instead of beating yourself up when you make a mistake?

Do you understand yourself well enough to trust your decision-making skills?

Being able to trust yourself is a struggle for all of us. Most of the time, we are taught to do the opposite of our first reaction – waiting three extra days to text that person you actually kind of like, or second-guessing your career choice, or putting your passions away for something more practical.

But self-trust has huge benefits – when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough to actually trust ourselves, the more we can learn about our Higher Selves and what we truly love. It can allow us to hear our intuition, loudly and clearly. Sometimes, this can even bring us closer to fulfilling our Personal Journey (the Alchemist, anyone?).

I created six affirmations below to help you cultivate self-trust.

You can repeat these along with other affirmations, you can write them over and over in your morning pages, you can even write them on post-its and put them in your bedroom.

Generally, repeating affirmations, especially aloud, is one of the best ways to really reprogram your subconscious. Even if you need to work yourself up to it, it is the best way to really believe these messages.

  1.  I trust the Universe and the Universe trusts me.
  2. I love and trust myself unconditionally.
  3. I can rely on myself.
  4. I am trustworthy.
  5. I deserve to be trusted.
  6. I am capable of making decisions that serve my Higher Self.

Do you have a favorite mantra? Let me know in the comments below!




How to Connect with your Intuition

Connect w your IntuitionDeveloping intuition and trust in ourselves is incredibly important – especially for South Asian women, or all women for that matter! In a culture and world where we, as women, are constantly told what to do and how to do it, it’s so vital to develop a relationship with your self and to decide who you truly want to be in this world. Without developing this connection to our intuition, we can go our entire lives playing by the rules and only doing what others demand of us.
I know how hard it can be to even know what your intuition is supposed to sound like and how to really know if your thoughts and actions are representative of your true self, so I created this list of small ways that you can start to be more intuitive in your daily life.
Intuition is like a muscle, and the more you exercise it the more you know how it sounds and what it is leading you towards. The more that you listen to and respect your intuition, the more easily you can live Self-Concordantly and truly develop a strong sense of self.
Intuition is defined as “an ability to understand or know something immediately based on your feelings rather than facts: Often there’s no clear evidence one way or the other and you just have to base your judgment on intuition,” by the Cambridge English Dictionary. While this may seem like it could be a trivial because it isn’t based on any rationale, developing Intuition is imperative because there are many decisions in life that cannot be based on rationale.
When it comes to finding a life partner, or deciding on a career path, or a new place to move – there are many situations in life that aren’t black and white and that take more than a pro-con list to decipher.
Here are three ways to start developing your intuition today:
  1. Start making choices intuitively – We make tons of choices every day – how we want to dress, what we want to eat, which workout we are doing that day, the affirmations we want to use, the tarot card we pull, the essential oils we diffuse. These choices are all frequent and have little to no consequences – you won’t be at stake of ruining your life if you choose a “bad” essential oil combo. Instead of falling back on your usual routine or making these daily decisions on autopilot, try to be a little more mindful for a week and see what your intuition draws you towards. Making these minute decisions can help you express your intuition without any fear that it will lead you off-track.
  2. When you have a tough decision to make, instead of running to your best friend or significant other for their opinion, journal it out. You may have heard of your “inner child,” but have you heard of your “inner mentor?” Both of these practices are great for developing your intuition. Grab your journal or some paper, and ask your inner Mentor (the older, wiser version of you), or your Inner Child (the younger, more fun, more carefree version of you) what they think you should do. Not only does this help you to look at your Self in a more holistic view, it will help you change how you look at time. This exercise allows you to feel as if you are asking someone for advice, but keeps the conversation pure rather than factoring in someone else’s fears and insecurities into the mix. It also teaches you that you are capable of making a decision without someone else’s approval. As someone who definitely used to be a people-pleaser, it can be shocking to realize how easily you can make a decision without having to get every single person’s approval first.
  3. This last one takes a little more imagination, but it is completely worth it. This is a visualization practice in which you think back on past memories of yourself when you were a child in distress. It is incredibly important that you let these memories come to you (it might even take a few days) and that you do not force yourself to relive or re-encounter anything that is too painful for you. In fact, the only memories that I have felt comfortable revisiting from my childhood have been memories before the age of 10, because my intuition has not guided me to revisit any painful memories from high school or college yet.
 When you revisit these memories, do not put yourself back in your skin, but instead watch them like a movie or like a still-shot in your mind. It is as if you, as an adult, are looking back over your past and connecting with your hurt inner child. When you see yourself as a child, being hurt, confused, and/or lost, allow yourself to enter this memory as the adult you are now and offer your younger self a hug, some comforting words, and just compassion in general.
I often picture my older self going back to my younger self when she is in a moment of panic or grief, holding her in a hug and telling her that everything is going to be alright. Not only does this make me feel like I am a compassionate and responsible adult, but it makes the younger version of me feel less hurt and abandoned. It feels like someone came back for her, and that she had someone looking out for her all along. Our inner children are generally creative and fun-loving, so offering this part of yourself compassion and healing can help repair the intuitive freedom and openness that often gets trapped and squandered with both trauma and age.
I cannot stress enough, however, to only do this with past memories that you are comfortable revisiting. I do not want you to rush this process and force yourself to revisit painful memories that leave you feel worn down, depressive, and at a loss for energy. Just finding these memories is a practice of intuition in itself – allow your Self to take on this exercise with the intention of healing (and any other intention that you may set) and let these memories come to you. You may even encounter some memories that you wouldn’t have otherwise remembered, but that still had a lasting effect on you.
Which exercise are you most excited to try? Let me know in the comments below!
As always, if you have any questions about these exercises or want to get in touch with me, email me!
Love + Light,
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