In the second half of my Past Life Series, I decided to interview my boyfriend, who has actually undergone his own past life regression.
He lived through many parts of his previous life as a fisherman, then nomad, then soldier in Italy around 1100 A.D. From the visuals he saw in his mind alone, we were able to recognize the exact piazza he lived near and we found out that he spent an entire lifetime around Venice.
He was able to heal physical pains he currently has when he saw how he got hurt as a soldier, and we talk about uncovering trauma, what you can learn from your past lives, how healing take place in a past life regression, and why everyone should undergo a regression!
Please let me know what you think below – would you ever try it?!
For #Holloween2018, I wanted to do something different and talk about *~past lives~* on my channel! I never gave past lives or reincarnation much thought before. However, like most special things, past lives were introduced to me in
a serendipitous way.
It was a hot, summer morning,and I was walking my sweet little corgi, and out of nowhere there was a giant box of free books on my block. I gave it a longing glance, but my lil’ pup was eager and ready to explore. On the way back, I kept getting nudges to look in the box, and the second I did my eyes fell on a book with scribbles on both covers and years of wear and tear visible. The second I saw it and saw the words “cell memory,” I was hooked.
I left on a cabin vacation the next week and devoured the book about cell memories and case studies of past lives in two days. The research continued, until I finally tried a past life regression on my boyfriend and we were both completely dumbfounded when he detailed his life in Italy as a 17 year old boy in 1100 AD. It was so specific and accurate, that based on his visions during the regression, he was able to recognize pictures of a specific plaza (he’s never left America) and we found out that he actually lived in Venice.
Past lives are a strange, fascinating, mysterious, and spooky phenomenon, and I go into so much more detail in the video below! Stay tuned for Halloween Day, too – my next video will be a tell-all interview with my boyfriend about his regression!
Creativity is extremely beneficial for mental health and for the brain overall. Not only does it increase your ability to problem solve, to find meaningful connections throughout your various experiences, it also provides you with a mental break that allows your mind to relax.
We’ve all had great ideas while we’re in the shower or while we’re driving, and that’s because our problem solving abilities can increase when we are exposed to new visual stimuli (driving) or if we are doing something monotonous and on auto-pilot. Rather than wasting gas and spending needless amounts of time in your car stuck in traffic, you can use your own creative practice to help you zone out, refresh your mind, and even passively learn a new skill while giving yourself a break from the taxing, anxious, and depressive thoughts we are often battling.
In this video, I take you along some of my DIY projects and tell you about how important creativity is for mental health. I hope that this video inspires you to start your own non-serious creativity practice or projects, and that this helps bring you some peace!
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The Theory of Possible Selves was developed by Hazel Markus and Paula Nurious in 1986.
This theory posits that we need to understand not only who we are on a day-to-day basis, but that we need to understand our “ideal self” and/or “perfect selves” as much as we need to understand the versions of ourselves that we swear not to become.
We are all raised with ideas of what we should be of what we can become (socially, financially, academically, and even professionally), and these ideas continue to influence us in our adult lives.
We might be subconsciously comparing ourselves to this fictional version of ourselves that we were taught to become, even if we have no interest in actually being that kind of person. To fully understand who we are, we must understand both our actual, daily self, as well as our possible selves.
The good news is that once we understand and become intentional with our possible selves, we can use this idea to continue to set goals and become better people.
Watch the video to learn more about this theory, and stick around until the end for the free exercise I give you to learn more about your own possible selves!
I talk about using Neuro-Linguistic Programming with most of my clients, and I will return to NLP tools for all types of problems.
If you’ve ever wanted to feel an immediate relief as soon as you walk into the door at home; or relaxation when you hit your pillow each night, it is completely possible!
My latest video shows you how you can use simple visualization practices and NLP tools to create a specific kind of mood in any physical place.
This video is short and sweet – under 10 minutes – and it’s free to use this tool at home! Why not try it?!
It has been SO long since I have posted and I apologize! I have been super active over on my YouTube Channel and for a while I couldn’t cross-post onto this website but I can now!! Woohoo!
So look forward to seeing my YouTube videos here when I first launch them, and to celebrate my recent 24th birthday, I decided to create a video about Lessons I’ve Learned during the past year.
I really wanted to make this series, Lessons I’ve Learned, as my version of a “Monthly Favorites” series so that I can share things that I’m going through in a more authentic way and so that I can take you on this journey of growing alongside me!
In this video, I talk about taking up space, what it’s like to be a woman of color on youtube, and what I’ve discovered that has SERIOUSLY helped me and changed my life in the last year!
I was 22, on the floor of my apartment, having a front-of-the-altar type of mental breakdown. I finally recognized the pain that I had been hiding for all of these years. The feeling of being unloved.
As a survivor of childhood emotional abuse, I know how much abuse and trauma from your past can affect your every decision. I was constantly looking for love without knowing it.
At the age of 5, I immigrated from Nairobi, Kenya, to Dallas, Texas. My extended family was torn apart, and my parents and I were uprooted to a new world. The very foundations of the world I had grown to love was shattered. This caused a lot of confusion and resentment amidst the culture shock of moving to a new country.
I wanted so desperately to fit in and to not be made fun of that I began to do everything in my power to assimilate. I purposely forgot three languages that I could fluently speak so that I could be proud to say I only knew English. I turned on my culture, and lived my adolescence through the experience of internalized racism.
As a teenager, anxiety and depression was constant and overwhelming, but in most cases I was unaware that I even had these conditions. It was when my maternal grandmother, whom I was closest to, passed when I was 16 that I truly began to realize the extent of my depression.
By the time I was in college, I had been continuing to hide parts of myself. Not only was I embarrassed by my heritage, but I had no idea how to believe in my own strengths and talents. I was so convinced that my natural skills in art, history, literature, sociology, etc. were “useless” because they “wouldn’t be able to provide for me.”
At every chance I had, I undermined myself. I didn’t know it at the time – but this lack of belief in myself was completely intertwined in my feelings of being unloved.
After suffering through hundreds of panic attacks, multiple serious bouts of depression, a constant stream of anxiety-ridden thoughts, and even trying antidepressants by just the age of 20, I knew that a better way had to be out there.
During my time after high school and in college, the pain that I carried with me manifested in the use of multiple substances. I was never completely addicted to one particular drug, but I knew that I was meant for so much more than the life that I was living.
I finally realized that I needed to heal. I needed to process all of the pain I had been through. I needed to break free of my addictions, my stories of self-doubt, and I had to completely put myself together again.
It was on this journey that I discovered NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), Art Therapy, and a variety of spiritual leaders that gave me the tools to discover who I am and how to believe in myself.
I learned to trust.
Not only myself, but the universe. The world around me. I rebuilt a story that my world is friendly, accepting, supportive, and loving. I reconnected with many old friends, made plenty of new ones, and created a life for myself that better than I could have imagined.
I know how difficult it can be to deal with addictions, to feel like every single decision is a struggle. I understand the immense heartwork that it takes to put trauma and betrayal in your past. But this is your life. And you deserve to be completely in love with it.
Self-Trust is fundamental to self-worth.
Do you trust yourself to do what is best for yourself?
Do you trust yourself to be compassionate towards yourself instead of beating yourself up when you make a mistake?
Do you understand yourself well enough to trust your decision-making skills?
Being able to trust yourself is a struggle for all of us. Most of the time, we are taught to do the opposite of our first reaction – waiting three extra days to text that person you actually kind of like, or second-guessing your career choice, or putting your passions away for something more practical.
But self-trust has huge benefits – when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough to actually trust ourselves, the more we can learn about our Higher Selves and what we truly love. It can allow us to hear our intuition, loudly and clearly. Sometimes, this can even bring us closer to fulfilling our Personal Journey (the Alchemist, anyone?).
I created six affirmations below to help you cultivate self-trust.
You can repeat these along with other affirmations, you can write them over and over in your morning pages, you can even write them on post-its and put them in your bedroom.
Generally, repeating affirmations, especially aloud, is one of the best ways to really reprogram your subconscious. Even if you need to work yourself up to it, it is the best way to really believe these messages.
- I trust the Universe and the Universe trusts me.
- I love and trust myself unconditionally.
- I can rely on myself.
- I am trustworthy.
- I deserve to be trusted.
- I am capable of making decisions that serve my Higher Self.
Do you have a favorite mantra? Let me know in the comments below!
- Start making choices intuitively – We make tons of choices every day – how we want to dress, what we want to eat, which workout we are doing that day, the affirmations we want to use, the tarot card we pull, the essential oils we diffuse. These choices are all frequent and have little to no consequences – you won’t be at stake of ruining your life if you choose a “bad” essential oil combo. Instead of falling back on your usual routine or making these daily decisions on autopilot, try to be a little more mindful for a week and see what your intuition draws you towards. Making these minute decisions can help you express your intuition without any fear that it will lead you off-track.
- When you have a tough decision to make, instead of running to your best friend or significant other for their opinion, journal it out. You may have heard of your “inner child,” but have you heard of your “inner mentor?” Both of these practices are great for developing your intuition. Grab your journal or some paper, and ask your inner Mentor (the older, wiser version of you), or your Inner Child (the younger, more fun, more carefree version of you) what they think you should do. Not only does this help you to look at your Self in a more holistic view, it will help you change how you look at time. This exercise allows you to feel as if you are asking someone for advice, but keeps the conversation pure rather than factoring in someone else’s fears and insecurities into the mix. It also teaches you that you are capable of making a decision without someone else’s approval. As someone who definitely used to be a people-pleaser, it can be shocking to realize how easily you can make a decision without having to get every single person’s approval first.
- This last one takes a little more imagination, but it is completely worth it. This is a visualization practice in which you think back on past memories of yourself when you were a child in distress. It is incredibly important that you let these memories come to you (it might even take a few days) and that you do not force yourself to relive or re-encounter anything that is too painful for you. In fact, the only memories that I have felt comfortable revisiting from my childhood have been memories before the age of 10, because my intuition has not guided me to revisit any painful memories from high school or college yet.
Self-Compassion is defined as “extending compassion to one’s self in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering.” Kristin Neff, a leading researcher on self-compassion, has defined self-compassion as “being composed of three main components – self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.”
It is inevitable, in all of our lives, that we will someday fail at something. Intentional or not, there comes a point when we make a mistake or feel betrayed or just plain screw up. We can lose days, hours of sleep, and precious energy mulling over the issues and choosing not to forgive ourselves. Or we can cultivate our self-compassion practice so that when we do feel let down or make a mistake, we can be patient with ourselves, learn from our mistakes, and give ourselves the space to grow. An article about self-compassion in Psychology Today elaborates that “people who have self-compassion also have greater social connectedness, emotional intelligence, happiness, and overall life satisfaction. Self-compassion has also been shown to correlate with less anxiety, depression, shame, and fear of failure.”
Step 1: understand the difference between your Self and your Saboteurs these voices have different sounds and even live in different parts of the brain. We all have voices that tell us that we aren’t good enough or that there is something wrong with us. This quiz is completely free and can give you a better idea of how exactly your self-sabotage takes forms. There are many different ways that we can trick ourselves into feeling less-than or unworthy, and it is important to face these head-on so that we can make decisions and life choices that are in alignment with our Higher Selves.
- Auditory & Visualization Exercise: When you hear these voices, pay close attention to where they are coming from. According to Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), the space where the voices are coming from can give you a lot of information. The next time you hear a negative voice, pay very close attention to the spatial placing of these voices. A voice that comes from your true Higher Self will come from the straight on or from a centered place. A voice that has been embedded into your psyche from someone else or from a traumatic event in the past will most likely come from behind you or from one side or another. This is likely because it came from a parent or adult figure who told you something unpleasant about who you are when you were small.
- After trying to separate the voices spatially, as you begin to recognize negative voices or sabeteours acting up, use your inner voice to confront and talk back to these negative voices by reinforcing your love for yourself and your safety within yourself. Repeat “I am loved. I feel safe.” and any other comforting mantras that may feel intuitive to you at this time.
Step 2: Cultivate your self-worth. We live in a society that benefits off of us attaching our self worth to external items. Capitalism benefits off of our desires for better clothes, nicer houses, fancier appliances, and high-paying, high-status jobs. We need to peel back these layers and confront our own sense of worthiness. Life is so immensely short, and the only way you can truly enjoy it is if you are in the present moment and find space to cherish exactly where you are in life right now. That means breaking away from the what-ifs and the self-doubt for just a minute to enjoy how far you’ve come, how many people you’ve met, and the impact that you undoubtedly have had on this world.
- Visualization exercise: picture the best memories that you have had, the most special moments that you have shared, the nicest things people have said to you or about you, and let those play through in your head. Allow yourself to “enter” these memories. Instead of just watching them like a movie of your life, relive these moments and feel what it was like to be at that age, in that space, with those people. Live in these moments for a minute or longer.
- Now, zoom out of one of these memories and watch yourself in it like a movie. Erase all of the other people who were there out of your mind, and just watch yourself in this place at this happy time in your life. Allow yourself to watch yourself experiencing these beautiful moments in your life. This practice has helped me deepen my self-love because it has shown me that at any age in my life, I have always been there for myself. As unconventional as it sounds, when you are constantly hearing negative voices about yourself and when you beat yourself up most of the time, (or are victim of negative voices as a result of depression), it can make you feel as if you are constantly attacking yourself. Even if it doesn’t seem to be happening consciously, these thoughts still take a massive toll on our psyches. This visualization practice really helped me rekindle my positive relationship with my self rather than continue the narrative of self-doubt and self-criticism. Realizing that I have more than a handful of happy times makes me feel connected to my entire life story, and helps me realize that I can choose, at any time, to create another happy moment – right here, right now. And so can you.
Step 3: Talk about yourself or a struggle that you may be having in the third person. If your best friend or spouse came to you and broke down in tears, how would you treat them? Wouldn’t you hug them, console them, tell them that you’re there for them, and that everything will be okay? Take this empathy and gentleness and speak to yourself in the same manner.
I have found myself getting so upset because of the struggles that other people face – because of my strong sense of empathy. However, the second I make a mistake or face a difficult situation, the more I am likely to criticize myself and be incredibly harsh. If you would never do this with a loved one, why do it to yourself?
- Activity: Speak aloud about how you are feeling in the third person. Speaking about yourself from a removed place can help you look at your behaviors or the situation you are struggling with in an objective manner, and can also help you create a deeper sense of empathy for yourself.
- If this is incredibly difficult for you, you can start by typing out how you feel or what you are struggling with as if you were describing it to someone else. Take a day, and then return to this statement the next morning or in 24 hours. Read over it, and think about what you would tell someone who came to you with this exact problem. You can even type back a response! This activity will allow you to take some of the pressure off yourself by again, zooming out, and allowing yourself to first cultivate passion from a third-person perspective the way that you would for another member of your inner circle.
Sending Love & Light,