Rejection is one of the hardest things that we deal with in life. Especially when we get rejected for job offers or by someone we’re interested in, it feels like everything we want and need in life is out of our control.
The reason that rejection can be so hard is because you place your value in the opportunities you’re pursuing.
We’ve all been turned down (or at least I have) for a job we didn’t really want. In those situations, rejection doesn’t feel all that bad. In fact, you might even feel relieved.
But when you get rejected from a dream job, it hits completely different.
That’s because not only did you value the position you had, but that position also became part of your identity. When you place your identity and your worth in external factors, and it gets taken away, you feel like you’re not valuable anymore.
With just a few key mindset shifts, you can actually start to look at rejection as a positive thing because it no longer determines your value in the world.
In this podcast episode, I explain how you can
- develop a positive attitude toward rejection,
- learn from your life experiences, and
- transform your perspective from needing external validation to knowing your intrinsic worth
Just five years ago, my favorite things were parties, day drinking in the sun, and dancing away the night. There was nothing better than not knowing where my next adventure would take me as long as my besties were by my side. But what I didn’t love was constantly waking up hungover, pushing myself to the limit, and feeling like I didn’t belong in any one place.
I finally let myself consider the scary thought of what I would be if I wasn’t always partying, and when I finally tried it I realized it wasn’t as boring as I thought. I actually enjoyed the sunlight and being able to function during the day and how much time I could save by not feeling groggy and hungover every morning. I finally felt like doing things. I started going on hikes and remembering what I did the night before, and it actually made me happy.
Over time, I continued to weed out the habits, people, and patterns that didn’t serve me anymore. I realized how absolutely light I felt. I stopped feeling obligated to things that didn’t make me feel good and realized that I could feel alive and carefree even if I wasn’t going from party to party.
Thus began my personal growth journey. In the podcast episode below, I share the story about how I changed from a party girl to a personal growth coach and how shifting your identity can be extremely liberating. I open up about the struggles I faced along the way, and why it’s still worth it to go after the changes you want to see in yourself.
Listen to the whole episode below!
I was talking to my cousin about relationships and she brought up such an interesting point – that relationships often expose our biggest insecurities.
It takes vulnerability to be in a healthy relationship. We have to admit when we’re wrong, put our needs aside from time to time, and worst of all – share the TV remote.
While everything that happens in a relationship isn’t exactly in your control, your relationship with yourself always is. A high sense of self-worth allows you to put your ego aside and make compromises. The ability to trust yourself and keep your promises serves as a foundation to show up for your partner as well. Feeling comfortable enough to set boundaries means that you’re less likely to become resentful of your partner.
When you and your partner both have a high sense of self-worth, you become less clingy, you feel true joy in your partner’s success and accomplishments, and you become less fearful of asking your partner for what you need to thrive.
In my new podcast episode, “Desperate to Confident: Self-Worth In Relationships,” I explore the many ways in which your high sense of self-worth can benefit your relationship. I also share many ways you can build up your self-worth so that you can be the best partner for your person.
Listen to “Is It Worth It? The Self-Worth Podcast” below!
It’s been a rough month for everyone. There’s no rulebook on how to handle a global pandemic.
However, my recent experience losing my sweet Corgi, Daisy, offered an insight into how resilient and beautiful the human spirit can be.
In a time of loss, we realize how to celebrate not only the departed, but those who are still with us.
In my new YouTube vlog, I open up and share my grieving process after my dog, Daisy, passed away.
My hope in creating this video is to inspire you to find hope in even the darkest of times.
Here are a few things that I did to commemorate Daisy (including timestamps):
- Visited her favorite walking spots with her clay paw print (8:19)
- Created a little nook in my home filled with her favorite ball, a picture of her at her best (running outside), her ashes and clay pawprint, and a couple of treats (12:46)
- Wrote down memories and her funny habits and put these notes in her favorite puzzle toy to read when I’m feeling down (15:33)
I also let you in on my emotional ups and downs throughout the process.
Watch the raw, messy, lovely process below.
There’s so much pain in the world right now, and my heart goes out to anyone grieving someone affected by COVID-19.
While I am not in that particular situation, I am currently grieving the loss of my Pembroke Welsh Corgi, Daisy. She was only 7 and in a matter of two days my boyfriend and I went from thinking she was healthy to having to put her down due to serious health issues. It was a massive shock, and I wanted to share my experience and discuss grieving, and healing, during the COVID-19 pandemic.
In a time when we are experiencing social isolations, humans still depend on bonding with others to heal and survive during periods of trauma.
In this podcast episode, I discuss how grief affects us to our core, and how to accept and support yourself during this monumental time in your life. I also share how we can lean on one another and continue to deepen our bonds even during this time of physical social isolation.
If you need another shoulder of support, please feel free to email me directly at BetiGrewUp@Gmail.com.
Content creators, entrepreneurs, and business owners can have completely different day-to-day experiences, but we do all have one thing in common: we experience self-doubt and overwhelm related to our business and/or content.
This week I wanted to bring to light some of the unique struggles we face, including:
*feeling resentful towards our art forms and business
*feeling guilty for enjoying family time / time off
*constantly feeling stuck (finances, decisions, priorities, investments, etc.)
I also wanted to share solutions to each of these problems so that you can implement more pragmatic and preventative strategies instead of feeling out-of-control all the time. Keep watching if you’re curious about creating a better work-life balance!
What’s up everyone! This week I wanted to bring you along on some of my favorite acts of self-care that I get to enjoy most weekends. I’m also extremely passionate about accessibility and affordability (let’s not get it confused, ya girl is definitely on a budget) so I included a:
*DIY hair mask,
*saag paneer recipe that anyone can try!
Self-care is all about feeling loved, valued, and worthy of pampering, and you certainly don’t need to break the bank or stress out over organizing a complicated day. Come along with me and get inspired to treat yourself! h
Overwhelm is a SERIOUS issue, especially when you are so overwhelmed you have NO idea how you really feel.
In this video, I talk about experiencing a mind-body connection and how that can keep us inline with our emotions, as well as a simple art therapy exercise that will help you figure out the physical manifestations (or symptoms) of each emotion on your body.
I share over a simple exercise is a great way to reflect on your overwhelm and will allow you to understand your emotions better by understanding your body first.
The exercise allows you to log the physical symptoms that you have attached with various emotions, which can help you figure out what you are truly feeling when you are overwhelmed.
This is especially helpful for those who have experienced depression, panic or anxiety attacks, depersonalization, and dissociation.
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This week I was inspired to share the lessons that I’ve learned during the month of October.
I share four major lessons:
- Your Identity Must be Flexible – when it comes to your personal growth journey, you won’t get anywhere until you become okay with changing who you are. This will include both superficial and fundamental changes, and I explain exactly how you can begin to do this in your own life.
- Life is as ____ As You Make It – your external reality is a reflection of your internal thoughts, and through my experiences this month I saw just how quickly my thoughts could manifest into reality. If you want your life to be abundant, connected, fun, wealthy, successful – you need to start with that as a fundamental belief, and I explain what that really means in the video below.
- Why We Surrender to our Egos – we’re constantly tempted between choices that we fear can define ourselves. Sometimes, we don’t think as deeply and come to prioritize how we feel and focus on just reacting instead of looking at the entire situation objectively. In this video, I explore what causes us to do this, and how we can grow from this and change our decisions.
- Movement as a Way to Reconnect with Mindfulness – I have recently gotten more out of my mindfulness and meditation practices than I have liked, and I share how using various movement practices (like yoga, martial arts, even sports and dance) can help jumpstart your return (or the beginning) of your mindfulness practice.
Join me in the video below and don’t forget to comment and share your lessons from the month below too!