Break-Ups & Boundaries: Healing Self-Worth After A Relationship

Break-Ups & Boundaries: Healing Self-Worth After A Relationship Is It Worth It? The Self-Worth Podcast

Welcome back to another episode! Today's episode is extra special because a listener DM'd me a question about how to heal your self-worth after getting out of a (not so great) relationship, and it gave me a chance to get a little more specific than other episodes. I share how to: identify your limiting beliefs about relationships transform your limiting beliefs into beliefs that excite & inspire you why setting boundaries doesn't always work, and what to do about it why trying to control things always backfires, and  how to heal and create a sense of safety all on your own In this episode, I shared TONS of lovely journal prompts. They were scattered throughout the episode, so I created a FREE downloadable checklist of journal prompts you can access here: https://mailchi.mp/650085174395/podcast-prompts-relationship-healing If you want to submit a question, you can send me a DM on Instagram @BetiGrewUp or email me at BetiGrewUp@Gmail.com! If you're ready to uplevel your self-worth and work with me one-on-one, you can book a 1:1 tarot and self-worth coaching session here, or you can learn more and fill out the application form for my three-month coaching program, 'I'M NOT ASKING' here! Sending you so much love, and until the next episode – Happy Healing! ✌ — This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/betigrewup/support
  1. Break-Ups & Boundaries: Healing Self-Worth After A Relationship
  2. Self-Worth & Body Image with Abha @_HealthHasNoFinishline
  3. Resisting Rest: Self-Worth & Productivity
  4. Self-Trust and Creativity with Neelam Patel
  5. Self-Doubt, Self-Policing, & Your Inner Critic: Unpacking Self-Trust

Welcome back to another podcast episode!

Today’s episode is extra special because a listener DM’d me a question about how to heal your self-worth after getting out of a (not so great) relationship, and it gave me a chance to get a little more specific than other episodes.

I share how to:

  • identify your limiting beliefs about relationships
  • transform your limiting beliefs into beliefs that excite & inspire you
  • why setting boundaries doesn’t always work, and what to do about it
  • why trying to control things always backfires, and 
  • how to heal and create a sense of safety all on your own

In this episode, I shared TONS of lovely journal prompts. They were scattered throughout the episode, so I created a FREE downloadable checklist of journal prompts you can access here: https://mailchi.mp/650085174395/podcast-prompts-relationship-healing

If you want to submit a question, you can send me a DM on Instagram @BetiGrewUp or email me at BetiGrewUp@Gmail.com!

If you’re ready to uplevel your self-worth and work with me one-on-one, you can book a 1:1 tarot and self-worth coaching session here, or you can learn more and fill out the application form for my three-month coaching program, ‘I’M NOT ASKING’ here!

Sending you so much love, and until the next episode – Happy Healing! ✌

What My Reactive Dog Has Taught Me About Personal Growth

It was my sweet boy’s birthday yesterday!!
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Theo is three 🥺🐾 and I’ve learned SO much about working with reactive dogs in the last 8 months – and he’s taught me just as much about healing.
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Here’s three personal growth lessons he’s taught me:
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1. We search for our fears in new situations.
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Theo will always stay by windows in new places, our home, and our car, even though he gets triggered by people and dogs that walk by.
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Logically, you’d think that if something was making him bark, he’d want to avoid it. But just him, you may tend to look for exactly what you *don’t* want in new situations as a way to confirm your fears as valid in the first place.
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2. Compassion always wins.
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When Theo works himself up by barking, I have to remind myself that he’s just reacting out of his own fear. Instead of yelling “NO!” or “STOP THAT!!” I wait for a break in his barks and remind him that he’s a good boy.
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I tell him that he’s safe, and that nothing will happen to him. I comfort him with pets and use a soft tone.
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He responds almost instantly, because compassion always wins.
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Stop beating yourself up for feeling scared, weak, angry, unfulfilled, or for any of your bad habits. Offer yourself warmth, compassion, and understanding instead. It will change EVERYTHING.
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3. Communication is always key when working with your inner child.
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Theo gets anxiety in new places, which is why we try to limit overwhelming him or changing things up too frequently.
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But when it does happen, I explain to him where we’re going, what we’re doing, and why we have to do that. I speak to him like a lil toddler, and even though he’s anxious, he slowly understands and begins to calm down.

This is EXACTLY how we need to talk to our inner child. Patiently, lovingly, and with understanding. You need to show up for your inner child the way that adults around you never did.

Doors Closing for ‘Not Your Beti’

‘Not Your Beti: A Guide to Self-Trust & Decision-Making for South-Asian Women’ is an online course I am hosting that begins February 2nd.’

I am so proud to announce that my online course, Not Your Beti, begins tomorrow (February 2nd, 20201)!

If you’re a fellow South-Asian womxn and you’re ready to leave expectations behind and start living life on your own terms – Not Your Beti is for you.
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Not Your Beti is an online guide to Self-Trust and Decision-Making for South Asian Womxn.
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This course will:
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⚡️ teach you how to deal with your inner critic, unpack generational conditioning to doubt yourself, and give you tools to release stored emotions through practices like Emotional Freedom Technique (aka tapping),
⚡️ guide you to explore your emotions, fears, and resistance even deeper through group coaching calls with me
⚡️ connect you to a community of likeminded womxn committing to their version of freedom,
⚡️ celebrate all you’ve let go in the last four weeks through a virtual burning bowl graduation ceremony.

I have been posting about Not Your Beti nonstop on my Instagram, but if you don’t follow me there I’ve linked the posts above!

If you’re interested in learning more about Not Your Beti, I explain what this course is, how I plan to teach you self-trust, and why I created this course in the video below:

If you still have questions about what the course costs, who it’s for, and what you’ll get, I’ve answered all those questions in the video below:

I have one final surprise for you – I know this past year has been tough financially for so many of us (myself included) and I prioritize accessibility in my business – so I’ve created a second payment plan option that spans 6 months. There is also a pay-in-full option as well as a 3-month payment plan.

Click here to get enrolled and find the right payment option for you!

If you’re still not sure if Not Your Beti is right for you, hearing from a fellow student may help you make your decision. I interviewed Neelam Patel, a bi-coastal artist, actress, playwright, and poet, how she struggles with balancing expectations from South-Asian society with her dream to share her art. We also chat about how self-doubt has stopped her before, and what she’s doing now to make sure that doesn’t happen. If you want to join Neelam in breaking through your limiting beliefs and building the life of your dreams, make sure you enroll in Not Your Beti TODAY so you don’t miss out!

As always, if you have any questions, don’t be afraid to comment below or send me an email. I love hearing from you!

How Lunar Phases Influence Your Physical & Spiritual Cycles

As you probably know, nature is a huge part of my spiritual practice. Being outside grounds me and helps me so much when I’m feeling especially anxious or depressed.
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I’ve been learning more about how the lunar cycle is connected to our bodily cycle and how certain phases of the moon can help you with setting and releasing intentions.
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I’m fascinated by this topic and have so much to learn, so I turned to my good friend Inés @_ineskelly_ to break down the basics of the lunar cycle and what it means for us on a spiritual and physical level. Inés is a coach, spiritual muse, podcaster, and curator of Moon Musings and La Luna Circle. 
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Start watching below and send some love to Inés (www.ineskelly.com) if you enjoyed the video!

A Life Coach & A Tarot Reader Discuss Self-Worth, Structural Oppression, & Spiritual Bypassing

If you enjoyed my podcast on tarot with Samara last week, you’re going to love my Instagram Live with them.

They interviewed me about my self-worth journey and how I became a self-worth coach, how internalizing racism can deeply affect our sense of self-worth as BIPOC, and how to navigate systematic oppression as a spiritual person.

This was such a loving and inspiring conversation and I’m so grateful to Samara for giving me space to share my story!

Watch the full interview below, and be sure to leave a comment on the video if you have questions for either one of us!

Tarot as a Tool for Activism & Ancestral Guidance

This week on my podcast, Samara Kasai (they/them) from @kasaithrive joined me for a conversation about their work decolonizing tarot.

As I recently wrote about in my Medium article, the self-help world has had many instances of cultural appropriation over the years. With tarot specifically, the issue of representation comes to the forefront.

Many tarot cards only show figures with white skin, which was one of the main issues we spoke about that often diverts BIPOC from using tarot as a tool for their own personal and spiritual growth.

The best thing about tarot as opposed to blanket advice from self-help books or even visiting a psychic is that it is a much more self-reliant practice. Tarot can be as affordable as a one-time purchase of a deck, and can be a tool that you can return to over and over again. Your personal interpretation of the tarot card in your pulls will often give you more specific guidance than an online tarot card generator.

These are the factors that make tarot an incredibly useful tool for BIPOC, as we are often underserved by the self-help community to begin with.

We also discussed how Samara actively guides their clients away from spiritual bypassing and instead encourages them to sit with the discomfort of what a card or personal situation may bring up.

Click below to listen along on your preferred podcast service and learn how to use tarot as a tool for activism and ancestral guidance.

Handling Rejection in your Career & Dating Life

Rejection is one of the hardest things that we deal with in life. Especially when we get rejected for job offers or by someone we’re interested in, it feels like everything we want and need in life is out of our control.

The reason that rejection can be so hard is because you place your value in the opportunities you’re pursuing.

We’ve all been turned down (or at least I have) for a job we didn’t really want. In those situations, rejection doesn’t feel all that bad. In fact, you might even feel relieved.

But when you get rejected from a dream job, it hits completely different.

That’s because not only did you value the position you had, but that position also became part of your identity. When you place your identity and your worth in external factors, and it gets taken away, you feel like you’re not valuable anymore.

With just a few key mindset shifts, you can actually start to look at rejection as a positive thing because it no longer determines your value in the world.

In this podcast episode, I explain how you can

  • develop a positive attitude toward rejection,
  • learn from your life experiences, and
  • transform your perspective from needing external validation to knowing your intrinsic worth

Click here to listen to the podcast on your favorite podcast provider!

How to Bounce Back in Dating & your Career: Self-Worth and Rejection

From Party Girl to Personal Growth Coach

Just five years ago, my favorite things were parties, day drinking in the sun, and dancing away the night. There was nothing better than not knowing where my next adventure would take me as long as my besties were by my side. But what I didn’t love was constantly waking up hungover, pushing myself to the limit, and feeling like I didn’t belong in any one place.

I finally let myself consider the scary thought of what I would be if I wasn’t always partying, and when I finally tried it I realized it wasn’t as boring as I thought. I actually enjoyed the sunlight and being able to function during the day and how much time I could save by not feeling groggy and hungover every morning. I finally felt like doing things. I started going on hikes and remembering what I did the night before, and it actually made me happy.

Over time, I continued to weed out the habits, people, and patterns that didn’t serve me anymore. I realized how absolutely light I felt. I stopped feeling obligated to things that didn’t make me feel good and realized that I could feel alive and carefree even if I wasn’t going from party to party.

Thus began my personal growth journey. In the podcast episode below, I share the story about how I changed from a party girl to a personal growth coach and how shifting your identity can be extremely liberating. I open up about the struggles I faced along the way, and why it’s still worth it to go after the changes you want to see in yourself.

Listen to the whole episode below!

Episode 7 From Party Girl to Personal Growth Coach: Self-Worth and Identity

Desperate to Confident: Self-Worth in Relationships

Photo by Everton Vila on Unsplash

I was talking to my cousin about relationships and she brought up such an interesting point – that relationships often expose our biggest insecurities.

It takes vulnerability to be in a healthy relationship. We have to admit when we’re wrong, put our needs aside from time to time, and worst of all – share the TV remote.

While everything that happens in a relationship isn’t exactly in your control, your relationship with yourself always is. A high sense of self-worth allows you to put your ego aside and make compromises. The ability to trust yourself and keep your promises serves as a foundation to show up for your partner as well. Feeling comfortable enough to set boundaries means that you’re less likely to become resentful of your partner.

When you and your partner both have a high sense of self-worth, you become less clingy, you feel true joy in your partner’s success and accomplishments, and you become less fearful of asking your partner for what you need to thrive.

In my new podcast episode, “Desperate to Confident: Self-Worth In Relationships,” I explore the many ways in which your high sense of self-worth can benefit your relationship. I also share many ways you can build up your self-worth so that you can be the best partner for your person.

Listen to “Is It Worth It? The Self-Worth Podcast” below!

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