A Life Coach & A Tarot Reader Discuss Self-Worth, Structural Oppression, & Spiritual Bypassing

If you enjoyed my podcast on tarot with Samara last week, you’re going to love my Instagram Live with them.

They interviewed me about my self-worth journey and how I became a self-worth coach, how internalizing racism can deeply affect our sense of self-worth as BIPOC, and how to navigate systematic oppression as a spiritual person.

This was such a loving and inspiring conversation and I’m so grateful to Samara for giving me space to share my story!

Watch the full interview below, and be sure to leave a comment on the video if you have questions for either one of us!

Tarot as a Tool for Activism & Ancestral Guidance

This week on my podcast, Samara Kasai (they/them) from @kasaithrive joined me for a conversation about their work decolonizing tarot.

As I recently wrote about in my Medium article, the self-help world has had many instances of cultural appropriation over the years. With tarot specifically, the issue of representation comes to the forefront.

Many tarot cards only show figures with white skin, which was one of the main issues we spoke about that often diverts BIPOC from using tarot as a tool for their own personal and spiritual growth.

The best thing about tarot as opposed to blanket advice from self-help books or even visiting a psychic is that it is a much more self-reliant practice. Tarot can be as affordable as a one-time purchase of a deck, and can be a tool that you can return to over and over again. Your personal interpretation of the tarot card in your pulls will often give you more specific guidance than an online tarot card generator.

These are the factors that make tarot an incredibly useful tool for BIPOC, as we are often underserved by the self-help community to begin with.

We also discussed how Samara actively guides their clients away from spiritual bypassing and instead encourages them to sit with the discomfort of what a card or personal situation may bring up.

Click below to listen along on your preferred podcast service and learn how to use tarot as a tool for activism and ancestral guidance.

Handling Rejection in your Career & Dating Life

Rejection is one of the hardest things that we deal with in life. Especially when we get rejected for job offers or by someone we’re interested in, it feels like everything we want and need in life is out of our control.

The reason that rejection can be so hard is because you place your value in the opportunities you’re pursuing.

We’ve all been turned down (or at least I have) for a job we didn’t really want. In those situations, rejection doesn’t feel all that bad. In fact, you might even feel relieved.

But when you get rejected from a dream job, it hits completely different.

That’s because not only did you value the position you had, but that position also became part of your identity. When you place your identity and your worth in external factors, and it gets taken away, you feel like you’re not valuable anymore.

With just a few key mindset shifts, you can actually start to look at rejection as a positive thing because it no longer determines your value in the world.

In this podcast episode, I explain how you can

  • develop a positive attitude toward rejection,
  • learn from your life experiences, and
  • transform your perspective from needing external validation to knowing your intrinsic worth

Click here to listen to the podcast on your favorite podcast provider!

How to Bounce Back in Dating & your Career: Self-Worth and Rejection

From Party Girl to Personal Growth Coach

Just five years ago, my favorite things were parties, day drinking in the sun, and dancing away the night. There was nothing better than not knowing where my next adventure would take me as long as my besties were by my side. But what I didn’t love was constantly waking up hungover, pushing myself to the limit, and feeling like I didn’t belong in any one place.

I finally let myself consider the scary thought of what I would be if I wasn’t always partying, and when I finally tried it I realized it wasn’t as boring as I thought. I actually enjoyed the sunlight and being able to function during the day and how much time I could save by not feeling groggy and hungover every morning. I finally felt like doing things. I started going on hikes and remembering what I did the night before, and it actually made me happy.

Over time, I continued to weed out the habits, people, and patterns that didn’t serve me anymore. I realized how absolutely light I felt. I stopped feeling obligated to things that didn’t make me feel good and realized that I could feel alive and carefree even if I wasn’t going from party to party.

Thus began my personal growth journey. In the podcast episode below, I share the story about how I changed from a party girl to a personal growth coach and how shifting your identity can be extremely liberating. I open up about the struggles I faced along the way, and why it’s still worth it to go after the changes you want to see in yourself.

Listen to the whole episode below!

Episode 7 From Party Girl to Personal Growth Coach: Self-Worth and Identity

Desperate to Confident: Self-Worth in Relationships

Photo by Everton Vila on Unsplash

I was talking to my cousin about relationships and she brought up such an interesting point – that relationships often expose our biggest insecurities.

It takes vulnerability to be in a healthy relationship. We have to admit when we’re wrong, put our needs aside from time to time, and worst of all – share the TV remote.

While everything that happens in a relationship isn’t exactly in your control, your relationship with yourself always is. A high sense of self-worth allows you to put your ego aside and make compromises. The ability to trust yourself and keep your promises serves as a foundation to show up for your partner as well. Feeling comfortable enough to set boundaries means that you’re less likely to become resentful of your partner.

When you and your partner both have a high sense of self-worth, you become less clingy, you feel true joy in your partner’s success and accomplishments, and you become less fearful of asking your partner for what you need to thrive.

In my new podcast episode, “Desperate to Confident: Self-Worth In Relationships,” I explore the many ways in which your high sense of self-worth can benefit your relationship. I also share many ways you can build up your self-worth so that you can be the best partner for your person.

Listen to “Is It Worth It? The Self-Worth Podcast” below!

Farewell, Daisy.

It’s been a rough month for everyone. There’s no rulebook on how to handle a global pandemic.

However, my recent experience losing my sweet Corgi, Daisy, offered an insight into how resilient and beautiful the human spirit can be.

In a time of loss, we realize how to celebrate not only the departed, but those who are still with us.

In my new YouTube vlog, I open up and share my grieving process after my dog, Daisy, passed away.

My hope in creating this video is to inspire you to find hope in even the darkest of times.

Here are a few things that I did to commemorate Daisy (including timestamps):

  • Visited her favorite walking spots with her clay paw print (8:19)
  • Created a little nook in my home filled with her favorite ball, a picture of her at her best (running outside), her ashes and clay pawprint, and a couple of treats (12:46)
  • Wrote down memories and her funny habits and put these notes in her favorite puzzle toy to read when I’m feeling down (15:33)

I also let you in on my emotional ups and downs throughout the process. 

Watch the raw, messy, lovely process below.

Processing Grief: Healing During COVID-19

There’s so much pain in the world right now, and my heart goes out to anyone grieving someone affected by COVID-19.

While I am not in that particular situation, I am currently grieving the loss of my Pembroke Welsh Corgi, Daisy. She was only 7 and in a matter of two days my boyfriend and I went from thinking she was healthy to having to put her down due to serious health issues. It was a massive shock, and I wanted to share my experience and discuss grieving, and healing, during the COVID-19 pandemic.

In a time when we are experiencing social isolations, humans still depend on bonding with others to heal and survive during periods of trauma.

In this podcast episode, I discuss how grief affects us to our core, and how to accept and support yourself during this monumental time in your life. I also share how we can lean on one another and continue to deepen our bonds even during this time of physical social isolation.

If you need another shoulder of support, please feel free to email me directly at BetiGrewUp@Gmail.com.

Listen to my podcast episode, “Processing Grief: Healing During COVID-19.”

The Link between Content Creation, Entrepreneurship, & Depression

Content creators, entrepreneurs, and business owners can have completely different day-to-day experiences, but we do all have one thing in common: we experience self-doubt and overwhelm related to our business and/or content.

This week I wanted to bring to light some of the unique struggles we face, including:

*feeling resentful towards our art forms and business

*feeling guilty for enjoying family time / time off

*constantly feeling stuck (finances, decisions, priorities, investments, etc.)

I also wanted to share solutions to each of these problems so that you can implement more pragmatic and preventative strategies instead of feeling out-of-control all the time. Keep watching if you’re curious about creating a better work-life balance!

DIY Self-Care Weekend

What’s up everyone! This week I wanted to bring you along on some of my favorite acts of self-care that I get to enjoy most weekends. I’m also extremely passionate about accessibility and affordability (let’s not get it confused, ya girl is definitely on a budget) so I included a:

*DIY hair mask,  

*foot soak,  

*mani/pedi, and  

*saag paneer recipe that anyone can try!

Self-care is all about feeling loved, valued, and worthy of pampering, and you certainly don’t need to break the bank or stress out over organizing a complicated day. Come along with me and get inspired to treat yourself! h

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