Being able to trust yourself is a struggle for all of us. Most of the time, we are taught to do the opposite of our first reaction – waiting three extra days to text that person you actually kind of like, or second-guessing your career choice, or putting your passions away for something more practical.
In a culture and world where we, as women, are constantly told what to do and how to do it, it’s so vital to develop a relationship with your self and to decide who you truly want to be in this world.
We can lose days, hours of sleep, and precious energy mulling over the issues and choosing not to forgive ourselves. Or we can cultivate our self-compassion practice so that when we do feel let down or make a mistake, we can be patient with ourselves, learn from our mistakes, and give ourselves the space to grow.
Is it possible for Communities of Color to balance their cultural history without normalizing suffering?
Imagine that everyone in our community took a little time for themselves, to nurture their needs, and to become a little more self-aware. Consider a world in which our parents, cousins, and all the Auntys we knew took a little time for self-love and personal growth, and a little less time for judgement.
When we are taught shame, we are being separated from that very connection that we so desperately desire.
It’s okay to take a break from all your family members, or to take a hiatus from seeing your friends for a couple of weeks. Especially if this means that you will grow and be a better person because of it.
To anyone who has been emotionally, physically, or mentally abused by close family. To anyone who cannot come out to their family. To anyone who has lost family support because you stood in your truth. This is for you. You are precious gem in this often soulless world. You will find a chosen family. YouContinue reading “An Ode to Lonely Hearts this Holiday Season”
Something you might not know about me is that I moved close to 1000 miles away from my parent’s home to start college at a liberal arts school. Not entirely unusual, except that all of my peers are long-gone from this small Colorado town, while I’m still here 6 years later. Walking around campusContinue reading “How You Can Start Trusting Your Intuition”
I get a call from someone impersonating an officer, with all my information, concerned about missing a court appearance for jury duty. Not only have I never even been called in to jury duty, but I have also never had any experience with missing a court date. I fell into the trap of listening toContinue reading “What You Can Learn From My Scam Story”