The Theory of Possible Selves was developed by Hazel Markus and Paula Nurious in 1986.
This theory posits that we need to understand not only who we are on a day-to-day basis, but that we need to understand our “ideal self” and/or “perfect selves” as much as we need to understand the versions of ourselves that we swear not to become.
We are all raised with ideas of what we should be of what we can become (socially, financially, academically, and even professionally), and these ideas continue to influence us in our adult lives.
We might be subconsciously comparing ourselves to this fictional version of ourselves that we were taught to become, even if we have no interest in actually being that kind of person. To fully understand who we are, we must understand both our actual, daily self, as well as our possible selves.
The good news is that once we understand and become intentional with our possible selves, we can use this idea to continue to set goals and become better people.
Watch the video to learn more about this theory, and stick around until the end for the free exercise I give you to learn more about your own possible selves!