The Theory of Possible Selves

The Theory of Possible Selves was developed by Hazel Markus and Paula Nurious in 1986.

This theory posits that we need to understand not only who we are on a day-to-day basis, but that we need to understand our “ideal self” and/or “perfect selves” as much as we need to understand the versions of ourselves that we swear not to become.

We are all raised with ideas of what we should be of what we can become (socially, financially, academically, and even professionally), and these ideas continue to influence us in our adult lives.

We might be subconsciously comparing ourselves to this fictional version of ourselves that we were taught to become, even if we have no interest in actually being that kind of person. To fully understand who we are, we must understand both our actual, daily self, as well as our possible selves.

The good news is that once we understand and become intentional with our possible selves, we can use this idea to continue to set goals and become better people.

Watch the video to learn more about this theory, and stick around until the end for the free exercise I give you to learn more about your own possible selves!

Published by Roshni

My name is Roshni. I am a Kenyan-born, American-raised, Indian woman. I studied education, psychology, and psychoanalysis in college and have been prioritizing healing in my recent years of post-grad life. I am passionate about breaking down mental health stigmas, especially in communities of color. My personal struggle with anxiety, depression, and panic disorder has led me to share my thoughts, experiences, and helpful exercises with you. I am here to share exercises for growth, insights into my own journey of mental health, and ways to stay productive and efficient without sacrificing your sanity - or your inner child! - Join me on this journey (Subscribing to Beti Grew Up, my YT channel & by following my Instagram @BetiGrewUp), - Share your story with me (by emailing me betigrewup@gmail.com) xoxo, Roshni

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