Developing intuition and trust in ourselves is incredibly important – especially for South Asian women, or all women for that matter! In a culture and world where we, as women, are constantly told what to do and how to do it, it’s so vital to develop a relationship with your self and to decide who you truly want to be in this world. Without developing this connection to our intuition, we can go our entire lives playing by the rules and only doing what others demand of us.
I know how hard it can be to even know what your intuition is supposed to sound like and how to really know if your thoughts and actions are representative of your true self, so I created this list of small ways that you can start to be more intuitive in your daily life.
Intuition is like a muscle, and the more you exercise it the more you know how it sounds and what it is leading you towards. The more that you listen to and respect your intuition, the more easily you can live Self-Concordantly and truly develop a strong sense of self.
Intuition is defined as “an ability to understand or know something immediately based on your feelings rather than facts: Often there’s no clear evidence one way or the other and you just have to base your judgment on intuition,” by the Cambridge English Dictionary. While this may seem like it could be a trivial because it isn’t based on any rationale, developing Intuition is imperative because there are many decisions in life that cannot be based on rationale.
When it comes to finding a life partner, or deciding on a career path, or a new place to move – there are many situations in life that aren’t black and white and that take more than a pro-con list to decipher.
Here are three ways to start developing your intuition today:
- Start making choices intuitively – We make tons of choices every day – how we want to dress, what we want to eat, which workout we are doing that day, the affirmations we want to use, the tarot card we pull, the essential oils we diffuse. These choices are all frequent and have little to no consequences – you won’t be at stake of ruining your life if you choose a “bad” essential oil combo. Instead of falling back on your usual routine or making these daily decisions on autopilot, try to be a little more mindful for a week and see what your intuition draws you towards. Making these minute decisions can help you express your intuition without any fear that it will lead you off-track.
- When you have a tough decision to make, instead of running to your best friend or significant other for their opinion, journal it out. You may have heard of your “inner child,” but have you heard of your “inner mentor?” Both of these practices are great for developing your intuition. Grab your journal or some paper, and ask your inner Mentor (the older, wiser version of you), or your Inner Child (the younger, more fun, more carefree version of you) what they think you should do. Not only does this help you to look at your Self in a more holistic view, it will help you change how you look at time. This exercise allows you to feel as if you are asking someone for advice, but keeps the conversation pure rather than factoring in someone else’s fears and insecurities into the mix. It also teaches you that you are capable of making a decision without someone else’s approval. As someone who definitely used to be a people-pleaser, it can be shocking to realize how easily you can make a decision without having to get every single person’s approval first.
- This last one takes a little more imagination, but it is completely worth it. This is a visualization practice in which you think back on past memories of yourself when you were a child in distress. It is incredibly important that you let these memories come to you (it might even take a few days) and that you do not force yourself to relive or re-encounter anything that is too painful for you. In fact, the only memories that I have felt comfortable revisiting from my childhood have been memories before the age of 10, because my intuition has not guided me to revisit any painful memories from high school or college yet.
When you revisit these memories, do not put yourself back in your skin, but instead watch them like a movie or like a still-shot in your mind. It is as if you, as an adult, are looking back over your past and connecting with your hurt inner child. When you see yourself as a child, being hurt, confused, and/or lost, allow yourself to enter this memory as the adult you are now and offer your younger self a hug, some comforting words, and just compassion in general.
I often picture my older self going back to my younger self when she is in a moment of panic or grief, holding her in a hug and telling her that everything is going to be alright. Not only does this make me feel like I am a compassionate and responsible adult, but it makes the younger version of me feel less hurt and abandoned. It feels like someone came back for her, and that she had someone looking out for her all along. Our inner children are generally creative and fun-loving, so offering this part of yourself compassion and healing can help repair the intuitive freedom and openness that often gets trapped and squandered with both trauma and age.
I cannot stress enough, however, to only do this with past memories that you are comfortable revisiting. I do not want you to rush this process and force yourself to revisit painful memories that leave you feel worn down, depressive, and at a loss for energy. Just finding these memories is a practice of intuition in itself – allow your Self to take on this exercise with the intention of healing (and any other intention that you may set) and let these memories come to you. You may even encounter some memories that you wouldn’t have otherwise remembered, but that still had a lasting effect on you.
Which exercise are you most excited to try? Let me know in the comments below!
As always, if you have any questions about these exercises or want to get in touch with me, email me!
Love + Light,