As I mentioned in my previous post, one of my recent dreams of actually having a festive holiday season, on my terms, has been coming true.
I wanted to explore this story a little more, and talk about my first-ever experience with visualization and manifestation. I have been exploring this topic recently, and learned that some of my favorite lifestyle bloggers, YouTubers, and authors strongly believe in the power of visualizing and using this tactic as a stepping stone to manifesting their dreams.
I have been so intrigued by this topic that I decided to add it to my habit tracker so that I would remember to set aside a little time every day to think about what I truly wanted.
I’m not gonna lie – a lot of this process started out in a stressful way. I was constantly worried that I wasn’t “visualizing correctly” or that I wasn’t focused and meditative enough. I felt like sometimes I would dream and visualize about living on an island, sometimes I would focus on running a successful business, but there wasn’t one overall lifestyle or goal that I was picturing myself living.
I kept visualizing the fantasies that I would see on my Pinterest boards rather than actually picturing how a particular thing would look in my life.
In the past, I’ve never really been able to choose what I’m doing or where I’m going during the holiday season. This year, I took a stand to celebrate the holidays my way. I was able to buy a later ticket to see my family, so that I could spend the holiday season with my boyfriend in my cozy Colorado landscape without actually upsetting my parents.
When I finally felt like I had some level of control over my plans without being guilt-tripped or feeling like I was letting everyone down, I was finally able to focus in on what I really wanted.
I started picturing even more fairy lights strung up all around my apartment, and a sweet little christmas tree with classy ornaments in the corner by the window, and started dreaming of all the delicious desserts I would whip up for Christmas day.
Last weekend, when my boyfriend and I went to his parents house for dinner, his mom gave us a pre-lit Christmas tree, strings of fairy lights, and even tons of festive ornaments. It all fell into my lap, and as soon as we got home my boyfriend out the exact corner I was visualizing as the perfect home for our new tree.
It was such a small manifestation, but it left me looking at this holiday season with completely new eyes.
Peeling back the layers of what I truly want compared to what I should want (being in Texas with my parents) has allowed me to shift my perspective. Instead of making myself feel bad that I’m not the perfect Indian daughter, I now realize that all I can truly do is follow what I want and figure out how it’s all going to work.
But ignoring my dreams to potentially make others happy while I choose to lead a life of quiet resentment is just not an option for me.
Here are a couple of things to remember when visualizing goals in your own life:
- It’s better to start small than not at all.
- Maybe you don’t know what you want, or what your future holds, and you sure don’t have time for any kind of commitment. But you know you want to be out on Saturday night, looking your best in that one certain dress. Or you can at least agree that a roadtrip or vaca with your besties is exactly what you need. Picking just one thing that you know you want can start to uncover other hidden dreams that you’ve kept at bay.
- Focus in on the details
- An important aspect of visualization that you’ll hear all the experts talk about is to not get attached to how a certain dream will manifest. For example, I never would have thought that my boyfriend’s mom would have magically gifted us a Christmas tree. But, I did focus in on visualizing the tree, and the lights, and the ornaments themselves. The more specific you are about a certain goal, the better.
- Picture it in your own life
- There is a difference between fantasizing about someone else’s life and actually visualizing accomplishing your goals in your own life. When I pictured the tree, I pictured exactly how it would look in my apartment, where it would go, and how it would make me feel. That is visualizing and manifesting in your own life. What I didn’t do is just go on Pinterest or Instagram to stalk other people’s perfect holiday decorations and get caught in a loop of envy. Even if you aren’t soaked in negativity or envy, when you start visualizing how a goal would truly look like for you, it becomes much more real. This is the difference between a daydream or a far-off thought and actually visualizing and manifesting your future.
In the comments below, let me know if you’ve ever had an experience with visualizing and/or manifestation!
If not, did this post give you some visualization – inspo?